You should definitely use open-source, encrypted messengers such as Briar, Signal, Threema, Element or SimpleX. Avoid insecure commercial messengers such as WhatsApp and co.
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If you are unsure which messengers are good or if you need arguments to convince family and friends, you should definitely take a look at Kuketz's messenger matrix. There you can easily compare the individual messengers according to functions and security aspects.